My mother has been showing signs of dementia/Alzheimer’s for a couple years now. She doesn’t remember whole blocks of time, like spending a whole day at Disneyland, that my brother moved out of state, etc. but her doctor gave her some bogus memory test that she says she passed and her doctor told her it’s normal at her age to “forget little things”. She doesn’t tell the doctor about the big things she forgets and she won’t allow me to go with her. She also lost a lot of weight in the last couple years and says her doctor thinks it’s great because she was doing it on purpose, however her previous doctor was trying to figure out why she was losing so much weight because she really wasn’t trying. (Her original doctor moved out of state so this one is new) I feel like my hands are tied and all I can do is watch her deteriorate. Any advice?
I have known three other individuals who didn't have high blood pressure but did have blockages in the arteries in the neck that diminished blood flow to the brain and caused memory and vision black/brown outs. Two had surgery to bypass the blockages and had a decade+ of normal life. The third died following a major stroke before agreeing to surgery.
I urge you to write a letter to her doctor and discuss these possible correctable problems to your mother.
You can always call her doctor and tell what you know. Because of patient confidentiality doc will not be able to tell you anything, but you have done what you can do.
Is this doctor a geriatric specialist? How old is mom? I see mom is 64 which is quite young for dementia.