My Mom (88) wears a pull up incontinence product but complains that the crotch area is too wide. She has tried Depends Fit/Flex, Covidien and I even sent off for a sample pack of different brands for her to try. All brands so far seem to be really bulky and wide in the crotch area. And these are not the overnight style, either. The sample pack included: Select, Prevail and Tranquility.
Is there not a product made specifically for a woman's shape that is more narrow in the crotch area? Right now, she does not need super absorbency as she is able to make it to the bathroom most of the time.
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The company was started by women who became caregivers for their parents. They experienced the same difficulties as most of us have had in caring for someone with bathroom issues. Look at their website. There is a phone number to chat with them. The woman who answered when I called was so compassionate and understanding. She understood my issue and had good suggestions. She also sent a HUGE box of samples of what they offer that she thought my husband could use. Their delivery was the next day (of course I am in So Cal which probably helped.)
I brought the box of samples to my support group and we all discussed the pros and cons of each style. Besides finding underwear that may solve your problem, you will feel you have another asset in your corner. Good luck.
I agree that with any product your mother is going to notice the unfamiliar bulk, and I'm afraid it might just be a question of getting used to it :(
Then again, if she doesn't mind your asking personal questions, or if she'd be happy to consult a specialist continence care nurse perhaps, it might be worth checking that there isn't any other source of discomfort such as chafed skin, sores, or some kind of infection.
I used them for my mom. They too are contoured to fit a woman’s body. They also make a pad in different thickness as well.
I hope you find something your mom likes. I know how difficult this is. 🦋
she wears those depends small but they have a huge pad in the middle- They are made to absorb quite a bit. We only have small accidents occasionally. So I am following this. I have even considered maxi pads ...