Are you sure you want to exit? Your progress will be lost.
Who are you caring for?
Which best describes their mobility?
How well are they maintaining their hygiene?
How are they managing their medications?
Does their living environment pose any safety concerns?
Fall risks, spoiled food, or other threats to wellbeing
Are they experiencing any memory loss?
Which best describes your loved one's social life?
Acknowledgment of Disclosures and Authorization
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid. We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour. APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment. You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints. Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights. APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.I agree that: A.I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information"). B.APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink. C.APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site. D.If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records. E.This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year. F.You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
✔
I acknowledge and authorize
✔
I consent to the collection of my consumer health data.*
✔
I consent to the sharing of my consumer health data with qualified home care agencies.*
*If I am consenting on behalf of someone else, I have the proper authorization to do so. By clicking Get My Results, you agree to our Privacy Policy. You also consent to receive calls and texts, which may be autodialed, from us and our customer communities. Your consent is not a condition to using our service. Please visit our Terms of Use. for information about our privacy practices.
Mostly Independent
Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
Remember, this assessment is not a substitute for professional advice.
Share a few details and we will match you to trusted home care in your area:
We have not formally started hospice. Mother is not eating. Today I was only able to get her to eat Ritz cracker with peanut butter. Just 1. Protein drinks she takes maybe 2 sips. Gatorade maybe 1 small bottle per day. I fix her favorites. One bite then she pushes it away. She has even spit it out. She states she not hungry, or it taste flat or she just doesn't want to eat. HH, PT, myself, my sister and MD have all explained to her the need to eat. On a good day she would eat 1 chicken nugget, 1 peanut butter cracker and 3-4 spoons of yogurt or cold cereal. Thats it. There will not be any tube feedings ever. Currently she is able to walk, get to bathroom and do PT. But some days she refuses to get up and walk or do her postop exercises. She just wants to watch TV, sleep and complain that she feels bad/sick. Moderate dementia - nice & cooperative then mean, belligerent, rude & demanding. We believe she has UTI (lab not back yet). Sister doesn't see the need for antibiotics since it would prolong the inevitable, but I think antibiotics might be needed for comfort. Also what about BP meds? Would you continue with those? Need opinions on what to continue or just stop all meds (except those that relieve constipation - that would definitely be uncomfortable). Sister & I are beginning to believe that all effort we are putting into getting her "better" is not beneficial for her or for us. Would it be considered neglect to withhold meds??
Please get help from hospice. Know that they shine at giving good guidance and loads of supplies. They are not hands on care. Stop pushing food, though it’s instinctive to feed people, it becomes unintentionally cruel when a body reaches a point of no longer being able to process food. It’s a natural occurrence for people to stop eating toward end of life, and food can become painful. Offer sips of her favorite drink. No more protein drinks. My dad’s wise hospice nurse advised me to make ice chips from his favorite drink. He enjoyed these from a spoon right to his end of life. Hospice can better advise, and quickly, on meds to discontinue. They will also bring meds to keep mom completely comfortable. I’m sorry you’re watching this. It’s both traumatic and an honor to see a beloved family member leave this world. Most importantly, just hold mom’s hand and let her know you love her. I wish you both peace
I would not push food. I would not push fluids and especially high protein and high carb drinks that will prolong end of life care for no real reason. I WOULD cuddle up and watch TV with her, especially the happy old ones she remembers--you know, Andy Griffith et al. I would let her sleep. Remember, she will "turn her face to the wall"; she is busy leaving this sphere for another; eventually she will part from your love and it will be difficult for her to even respond to you. She is on another journey. You can't understand it now, until you take it yourself.
I would keep her well medicated esp with anti nausea drugs as most of the other drugs will cause some nausea in people unused to them. IF there is complaint about burning of urine, bladder discomfort, then definitely antibiotics if she can tolerate them, or medication to prevent this burning and discomfort (speak with hospice).
Basically Hospice is there to answer these questions. Pass them ALL by the Hospice RN. Thank you for providing this comfort and end of life care. Remember that your goal now is not quantity of life, but rather quality of life. Let her eat and drink and sleep at will; keep her medicated. Tell her your memories. Watch the tube with her.
My best to you. Thank you for helping her in this exit. It is one of the kindest things you will ever do in your entire life.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I would not push fluids and especially high protein and high carb drinks that will prolong end of life care for no real reason.
I WOULD cuddle up and watch TV with her, especially the happy old ones she remembers--you know, Andy Griffith et al.
I would let her sleep.
Remember, she will "turn her face to the wall"; she is busy leaving this sphere for another; eventually she will part from your love and it will be difficult for her to even respond to you. She is on another journey. You can't understand it now, until you take it yourself.
I would keep her well medicated esp with anti nausea drugs as most of the other drugs will cause some nausea in people unused to them.
IF there is complaint about burning of urine, bladder discomfort, then definitely antibiotics if she can tolerate them, or medication to prevent this burning and discomfort (speak with hospice).
Basically Hospice is there to answer these questions. Pass them ALL by the Hospice RN. Thank you for providing this comfort and end of life care. Remember that your goal now is not quantity of life, but rather quality of life. Let her eat and drink and sleep at will; keep her medicated. Tell her your memories. Watch the tube with her.
My best to you. Thank you for helping her in this exit. It is one of the kindest things you will ever do in your entire life.