My husband and I decided to try to get some help with bathing MIL. I have not been very successful doing it myself. The agency we called of course wants 8 to 12 hours per week in 4 hour blocks. My husband decided to have them come in the evening so we can go out. This is making me nervous. Having a stranger in my home unsupervised except for mom. Advice anyone?
i suggest you put off date nights until you find one that’s self motivated and respects your home and your mom likes or even enjoys. . It may take one or 5 but you’ll learn as you go as well. Clorox wipes instead of pure bleach, for instance. Small lists of chores done each visit vs once a week. There are very good ones out there. If your mom is able to give feedback that’s the most helpful in deciding. They are not slaves nor should they be treated as such but small things to keep them busy will make the team a well oiled machine. Be realistic, 4 hours can go slow if everything is done so companion care is a fallback, playing cards, reorganizing drawers, chatting about common interests is fine too. I have mine take him to store and prepare 3 days of sandwiches or lunches each visit , you get the point.
As for learning to trust them, you just have to take time and learn to trust them. Start out by being at home at the same time. See if it works out. If it does then go from there.
So I guess at this point, the problem lies more with him than MIL. 😕
Thanks to all.