Nursing home placement and lose everything?

Czech, if there is a "community spouse" the rules are different. Medicaid has no interest in impoverishing you.

Please see a highly qualified eldercare attorney. Worth every penny.

Consult a certified elder attorney and see what he or she can do. The nursing home will not seize your property. They will require your husband’s social security and pension. You may have to make payments to the nursing home. Consult Area Agency on Aging to find out if there are state or local resources. Another option may be a small board and care home.

As said, you will need to talk to an elder lawyer. A home and some retirement plans are not considered assets by Medicaid. Either is one car. Medicaid allows for splitting of assets. Your husbands split going to his care, when its spent down, then Medicaid is applied for about 90days before he runs out of money. Your monthly income of SS and pensions will be looked at. Yes, you will keep urs but you will be allowed part or all of his to be able to live on. There are Miller Trusts, in some states, that allow for any money over the cap to be placed in the trust to qualify for Medicaid. You will be considered the Community Spouse.

I am assuming both of you are on the deed. When ur husband passes, Medicaid will put a lien on your house. You will still be allowed to live there till your death. If you sell the home, that lien will need to be satisfied.

I am just giving you the basics here. Each state is different. But it gives you an idea of how Medicaid works. It will help you to ask questions and understand what the lawyer is saying.

Why do you think he's not eligible for Medicaid?

If placement is required by one spouse an elder law attorney can help you to apply to separate finances so that your spouse will spend down his portion before then applying to medicaid. At that time his assets and Social Security will go to his care. Yours will remain yours. The home you share will remain, is not taken for care. It is all quite complicated and nothing that a Forum Post can answer but you can google a lot of it and an hour of time with Elder Law Attorney can explain it to you as well. Medicaid requirements vary state to state as this is a state program combined with federal. As I said, it's complicated.
Are you presently thinking that your spouse will be needing to get placement soon?

You begin to look under every rock for help form as many agencies as you can contact.
Your local Area Agency on Aging might be a resource you can tap into.
Your local Senior Center, they may have resources that could help.
Is your husband a Veteran? If so contact your local Veterans Assistance Commission to determine what help the VA can offer. It might be a little or a LOT depending on where and when he served.
Consult with an Elder Care Attorney. Find out how he can qualify and what the process might be to get him Medicaid eligible.
Depending on other ailments he may qualify for Hospice. With Hospice you would get the Supplies, Equipment that you need as well as a Nurse that would come weekly, a CNA that would come a few times a week to bathe him, order supplies and change bedding if needed. And they will offer support and education that is invaluable.

Your spouse may not be Medicaid eligible at this time, BUT there is a way to change that situation. There are lawyers that specialize in elder care and SEPARATION of assets. You can get a separation of assets for Medicaid purposes without getting a divorce. It can protect the spouse not in long term care from impoverishment. If you have an attorney check on this or get them to refer you to someone who specializes. Splitting income is the beginning, then allowances or deductions from that income are made to calculate NH expenses. Its complicated but its done every day. I am not a lawyer but you can google the procedure. Look for Medicaid Division of Assets. If the answer isnt immediate for your situation, it will lead you to a better answer. But an elder care specialized lawyer can work with you. You can successfully protect a large portion of your income in a division...and your home.

They will not take your property. Your liquid assets will be split 50/50 with half going for care. When that is used, then a Medicaid application will be completed and submitted.

Get with an elder law attorney to learn the real laws in your state.

Most if not all state Medicaid allow a house for the spouse as well as a car. This wasn’t always the case. Find an elder law attorney to find details.

You should contact your state's medicaid office to find out the eligibility laws as Medicaid is administered slightly differently in each state. I had a family come into my office and say their dad wouldn't qualify for Medicaid because he had a home, 20k in savings and his wife was living in the home. Medicaid looked at the situation - he qualified in two months and his wife (the community spouse was able to stay in the home) She used her social security income and what was allotted to her from his social security to pay her real estate tax and maintain her car. Another man did not qualify because he had a home which he live in alone as his wife was deceased, 100k in savings and the family did want was to spend the 100k putting into a facilty. Medicaid's ruling, upheld by the court, was "he has funds to be used for him at this time and not to be held as the family's inheritance". Then there was the family that thought they had a problem when Dad went into a facility and wanted to protect his home from Medicaid because his disabled daughter, who was also his care giver for the past 5 years lived in the home. So with the help of a snarky supposedly 'elder care' attorney they transferred the house into the daughter's name so Dad could go to the facility and daughter would continue to have a place to live. Big no, no.!! Medicaid to the father was denied because home was gifted to daughter in order for Dad to become eligible for Medicaid. I wanted t kill the family but then I calmed down and realized they had been taken advantage of by a low life attorney. I (Admission Dir. of the facility where they were trying to place Dad) got into my car, drove to the county Medicaid office, found the worker and explained the situation. They were incredulous but agreed if the family could rearrange the deed/title back to the original state (Dad as owner), they would reverse their decision... which they did. So in many states, a child who has been living in the home and functioning as a caregiver is allowed t live in the home after Medicaid acceptance. BTW... that disable daughter visited her Dad every day and became a volunteer activities person! She was something else.

You have to find out how Medicaid is administered in your state and get yourself a good eldercare attorney.... try https://www.naela.org/ (national academy of elder law attorneys) to see who is in your area who can help you. If you have assets including a home, you really should speak with an attorney. Often they will give you 15-20 min consult for free.

And the going rate for Asst. Living in NJ is $4000-7500 depending on the level of care and for LTC $9000-10000. These are generally operated by for profit companies so after they pay bills they want to walk home with a hefty profit and sometimes it is really hefty but it is an expensive business to run (admissions and financial staff, booking, staff, social workers, utilities, maint staff, cleaning floors daily, sanitizing rooms, nursing staff, activities and activities staff, kitchen staff, landscaping, telephones, cable and food).

Good Luck with your research and your journey. Pls. keep us updated and feel free to PM me with any questions particularly on long term care and assisted living differences.