It has been almost one year since I moved my mom to memory care and I am so blessed to be able to say my mom is doing really well there! I cannot explain how different this Christmas was compared with the previous 3. I am so grateful that nightmare is over. (Her living with her husband who was not much better off than her and then living alone for the last year). My sister and I work together to make sure one of us visits her every day. I just wanted to let people know there is hope your loved one can be "happy" in memory care. I try not to think about what happens when she runs out of money in 3 years. At least not yet. I am just savoring the moment. It is as good as I could have hoped it would be.
This forum opened my eyes to the possibility of Memory Care for my mother. It saved my sanity. ◡̈
(of course reasonably plan for the future, but not worry about it too much, who knows what will or will not happen....)