Hey, everyone.
So... my mother is not exactly good at taking her medication as prescribed. All of my efforts to get her not to take too much are for naught. She is also dealing with a morphine addiction, and she's currently unable to get any. So she's taking twice/three times her night meds so she can sleep through withdrawal. Except she's not sleeping.
As of right now, she has fallen; I mean completely, just, WHUMP, 5 times since yesterday. She gets out of bed to go to the bathroom and loses control of her arms and legs. She can usually get on her hands and knees but that's it. I've had to physically drag/carry her back to bed all 5 times.
Earlier today, she literally just laid on the floor and yelled, "Help". She couldn't even get onto her knees.
She will not go to the ER. She is frail. She is 5'10 and ~110 pounds. For all we know, she's broken something, but she just told me, "Get that idea out of your head, I'm not going anywhere."
What can I do? I didn't get any sleep last night because of the surge of adrenaline that came from having to drag dead weight back to bed, and I know the same will happen tonight. But she doesn't want to do anything because she's presumably getting more morphine tomorrow, which is the only thing in the world she cares about (except for making my life miserable).
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She needs to be in a place that can wean her from the morphine or dose it properly. You're not equipped to do that. I wouldn't pay any attention to what she says she wants - you say she's an addict and therefore isn't in a place to make good decisions. You are. Does the hospital have a rehab facility? Do they understand her drug issues? If you're trying to hide them, don't. Let them know the full picture and maybe you'll get some help.
You need to take care of yourself in this situation by getting your mom to professional help, either rehab or hospital. Good luck and keep us posted.
The next time your mom falls (and once our elderly loved ones start falling, they keep falling) pretend like you can't get her up. Say you're sick, you have a pulled muscle, whatever. And call 911. Let them try to get her to the ER.
And about the morphine. Your mom shouldn't be withdrawing at home. Morphine withdrawl is dangerous and very painful.
Good luck, bless you for your love and caregiving. You don't say if this is an end of life issue? Your Mom seems dangerously underweight. How are you coping with the stress?
When my Mom started falling and was unable to pick herself up, I had to call paramedics. After several falls and calls, and the last one resulting in the paramedics taking her to the hospital, the paramedics told me that Mom needed to go into assisted living.
You need to come up with a plan for your Mom's best care. Can she go into assisted living? If not, can you get a hospital bed so you can put the bars up at night?