Do I owe her my friendship? I realize I might have a little bit of bitterness, but I wonder if I am obligated in some way to keep up with my Step Mom. Dad died over 10 years ago. She always looked down her nose at me, was so superior acting, and was very snotty to me with her words. She and Dad went on trips and had all that they could want or need and more. They bragged about all this to me while I was struggling just to make ends meet and they would never offer to help me. They gave gifts at appropriate times but never any extra. Now she is destitute and in a nursing home. It is not even a nice one. But, that was all her doing by her choices and I had nothing to do with it. I sort of feel guilty for not writing or calling, but not much. I am sorry that her life turned out like it did but you should not judge ANYONE because the shoe can always fit on the other foot! I really don't feel obligated to talk to her anymore. What do you t.=hink? Thanks.
1 John 3:17
But whoso hath this world's good, and seeth his brother have need, and shutteth up his bowels of compassion from him, how dwelleth the love of God in him?
Revelation 3:17
Because thou sayest, I am rich, and increased with goods, and have need of nothing; and knowest not that thou art wretched, and miserable, and poor, and blind, and naked.
Anyway, I think they were abusive and I am just thinking that I don't want to see her any more. I pray for her not to be abused in her nursing home and it is just too bad that she had everything and shared nothing. Now she has nothing. I guess I am just hurt that people didn't value me and they valued their money, their things and they cannot take them with them. I did love them, but I was not good enough for them. I have experienced the Love of Christ many times from true Christians. I feel rich! Don't worry about bitterness, God will heal me. God is good! I don't really think it is bitterness. Actually, I guess it is envy. There! I can be free now and thank you. I hope this helps others that read. If not, look in the mirror. Thanks Jeanne
I don't think your father and his wife were obligated to curtail their trips so that they could help you out financially.
I think there is more than a little bit of bitterness lingering here. I think you might feel a whole lot better if you could let go of that, but that is your doing and your choice.
Perhaps if you followed your own advice and stopped judging this person that your father loved, and extended a kind word or an occasional visit, it would feel good to you. I know nothing about your spiritual beliefs. Do they include anything about forgiveness? But you are certainly under no obligation to be nice to this person at the end of her life. She made her choices. You can make yours.
The fact that you are asking for opinions, though, tells me you are not totally satisfied with your current choice.