She is bent over constantly and chokes a lot. We have had to lock her ands dogs meds up because she gets it all mixed up. And she's developed OCD about certain things. Even neurologist thinks she's rapidly worsening but latest. Brain scan didn't appear to show any marked changes. She's starting to have a few accidents but. We can't tell if its just that she couldn't get there in time? Newest trend us going to bathroom every 20 min. And chasing us outside when we leave for work. Clearly she's not mentally understanding everything anymore. Worried about how much longer she has and how much longer before she can't be cared for at home. She fell as she does a lot but this time fractureed her nose. Scared for her. Still don't know how it happened cuz she can't say anything and we were home!
Is it time for NH? How is the caregiving situation for you? Does she sleep through the night? Do you have some regular respite? What are her physical declines and how comfortable are you handling them? Can she cooperate with cleaning up her incontinence or is she dead weight?
Often whether a person is "ready" for NH is a matter of what the caregiver can deal with. Most people with dementia do reach a point where it just isn't feasible to be cared for by one person in a private home. Either in-home help or a care center is needed. If you think Mom is approaching that state, then moving into an NH from rehab might be the easiest way to do it. Good luck to you both.
Vikilynn - brain scans are INTERESTING and a show SOMETHING, but they are not completely diagnostic of dementia brain. Also, more than one kind of dementia can overlap and coexisting at the same time. You a right to be concerned about sleeping. My mom started that in the last 10 days and it lead to pneumonia, which is essentially what caused her death. By contrast, my dad with Alzheimer's with a big man with back problems, so we had him in a reclining chair instead of a bed. When he started sleeping more, he wasn't lying down so his lungs did not fill up with fluid and he never got pneumonia. He did stop eating, however, and lost 37 pounds in 9 weeks. His COD was technically heart failure but we will always believe that the heart function was affected by starvation.
You seems fairly balanced and in control of your feelings about this. It does seem like your mom is beginning to approach crossing over. Just be ready for it, it's about all you can do right now.
I guess that more important than figuring out the exact cause of each symptom is to make her as comfortable as she can be, with as much quality of life possible, in spite of the symptoms.
Spending increasing time in bed was a sign of end stage for my husband. When it got to be 20 hours a day I called hospice. Perhaps an evaluation for hospice would help you understand where she is at. Even if she isn't ready yet, the evaluation could start the process and help you know what to look for.
Best wishes to you as you struggle with this very challenging and sad situation.
And I agree with 4th daughter, Mom went in to the ER after falling and they sent her to a rehab/nursing facility, she got a staph infection, cdip, uti and pnuemonia there, it was rough, but she could no longer walk, talk or eat so she needed that 24 hr care. I still question that move, and that was a top rated nursing home!
Good luck and God Bless You. Hugs.
Can I ask does your mom have an advanced directive? My mom had her DNR form made up 10 years prior to her diagnoses so we knew what her wishes were. She did not want any life sustaining procedures. So when she refused food she did not want a feeding tube. Hospice was so very useful at this point. They kept mom comfortable and pain free. If you don't already have them talk to her doctor and have her evaluated for hospice. Get respite when you can. Caring for someone with dementia is exhausting, take of you so that you give her the care she deserves. Good luck and God bless.
Mom lost her fight after 6 months of the diagnoses.. After learning what I could about the disease we learned the type of dementia mom had was Lewy Body Dementia.