I have done everything in my power to ensure my Mom is well cared for and I must say I have done a remarkable job. It was very hard work for me and all I have ever requested from my sister is her signature on checks to pay what Mom owes the NH. and I have informed her included her all the way but I found it easier to just focus on Mom's needs and fill sis in when it was necessary. I never held info. back or made any actions or appointments without including her but she always refused to be a part of anything. What I am saying in short is I did it all and she ignored it all. It seems that now that she understands that her inheritance is spent she is mad at me. However when I was taking care of the home, Mom, working 45 hours a week, and asked her to help me she wanted to get paid. I did all the work sis complained and an hour out of her time she wanted payment. I never took a cent for myself in fact, I took money out of my pocket to pay for Mom's needs, not to be reimbursed, I don't care about that. So the real problem that I am having now is...she uses the P.O.A,. as a way to get me back for doing things right... I'm guessing, She gives me a hard time when it comes to signing checks for Mom. She doesn't see that Mom's care is the issue... never has. Is this legally a crime if she's not acting in the benefit of Mom as her fiduciary duty? She is also a trustee for my mentally disabled brother and I see neglect there as well. bottom line her focus is herself! I feel I should take action against her to remove her power. Can I do anything about her being in my way?
try this. tell sis you need a break. insist upon it. nag her till she swtches with you for, oh try for two weeks, plan to have the person back in 5 days.
or talk to a lawyer about haveing that changed, see if you can get expenses ( some) automaticly deducted, then keep ALL receipts ( even that mc donalds,keep it) dont ask mom, it cant really be up to her, its already out of her hands anyway. talk to sis about switching for 2 weeks. and she wont want to. she will have every excuse in the book, you have 3 reason for every one reason shes would have, make sense? if that dont work, go about her head. go to court
As I say, that would be easiest, but I don't know how feasible it is.
As for changing the trusteeship for your brother, I don't know how that works. Is there someone else who could step in?