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Is anyone one here with that? my son-in-law has it and I need some info. He spoke with a mental health person due to depression and was advised to get one of those virtual things to do some programs things to help with that but all he seems to do is play games which is only putting someone in a fantasy world and not wanting to deal with reality. he pretty much doesn't want to do anything (claims it hurts or whatever) but when it comes to doing things that are fun for him, then he can do things. i know I am venting but hate to see everything fall on our daughter when I know he can help but chooses not to help. I never know IF he really hurts as much as he claims or what. I know a friend whose hubby had this, but she said he could do some things where my son-in-law doesn't even seem to want to take his dog out for a small walk and when he has to he acts like its a chore. Any advise or input?

Back off.
This is for your daughter to deal with.
You may not be getting the entire story, diagnosis, therapy.
If your daughter is having a problem then she can talk to her husband together with his doctor.
If she/they need counseling that is for them to decide and either chose to do or not.

Be there to support her and listen to her.
Be a sounding board.
But do not say
"you should do ...."
or "you shouldn't do..."
and most of all never say "I told you to....." or "you should have listened to me when I said...."
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I don’t think any of us can assess your daughter and son in law’s life. This is between the two of them. It’s either a medical condition or a marital issue.

Your daughter will have to speak with her husband’s doctor to get an accurate understanding of what is going on. Does she have his permission to speak with his doctor?

Best of luck to you and your family.
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