I am 80. I don't want to lose my independence--driving to lunch with friends, having quiet time, watching programs I like. I don't want to be treated like a child.....having them tell me not to do things like pick up around the house, cook a meal, etc. Are there guidelines somewhere for each of us to review before making this decision?
Make sure you have all your legal business done. See an elder care Atty, you don't want this to cost your daughter. He'll advise you about what's the best way to pay your daughter monthly rent to avoid any problems if you may need medicaid..
Good luck and I hope you have many happy years with your family.
Write down any questions and concerns you have... ask her to do the same, then have that conversation.... so many problems can be avoided by doing this first.... also include things about when you become less able to care for yourself.... what you want and need your options to be.....
This is amazing that you are looking at the bigger picture.... an elder that communicates........ will you adopt me???? I am not trying to be flippant here, just letting you know your approach is very insightful and very welcome.... let us know how things go...... sending you hugs for a great and workable outcome....
Do you like your daughter? I know you love her, but how much does she drive you crazy? and vice versa. Is there a spouse or grandchildren? Nobody approves of how "this modern generation" raises kids. Will that be an issue?
Where will you sleep? Will you have your own bathroom and your own TV? Maybe even a dorm fridge and a microwave? Are you a lot neater or messier than your daughter?
I'm focusing on the negatives, but I would LOVE to have my mother be still alive and come to live with me. If you two decide it will work, good for you. I'm jealous.