my POA and my brothers questioning the money I spend and wants all statements of my Moms account which I have not touched and tax forms! He is obnoxious controlling and rude! He never visits my Mom or asks about her! What am I responsible to give him!!
Beyond that I believe it is inappropriate to discuss Mom's finances as you now have a fiduciary responsibility to her.
I neither expected (nor had) any issues when I was POA for my Mom. Still I was buying items and reimbursing myself by check. I kept detailed lists and quarterly (unasked) I sent an itemized list of all purchases for her along with the check number I wrote to myself in that amount. I was not the executor of the estate but I handed over all of the receipts to the executor.
Non caregivers are always afraid the caregiver is getting something extra. (sigh) family life!!