My step dad lives with my moms from age 2 months old till I was 11 yrs old and was very abusive and violent to each other, after abandoning us, 48 yrs later he comes back to my life. His behavior is not good, he wants control. He has dementia where he lashed out, he starves himself for 2 or 3 days, he's diabetic. What should I need to say or do when the state comes to evaluate him so he can qualify long term facility?