My dad's caregiver who also lives at his house (she's not 24/7 however) wants to have friends or her partner over whenever she likes.
The only issue I have is that he has not yet had the vaccine (nor has she) and he is a high-risk population.
I don't live in the state so it wasn't until the other caregiver made me aware of this that I sent an email to let her know she can't have guests over.
Now she is very upset and sending me long messages in protest.
Do you think it's unreasonable to ask her to not have guests until he is vaccinated and his doctor gives clearance?
If this caregiver is really pushing to have others over to visit no matter who they are, then you need to decrease her hours so she can have the "needed" time off to be available for them or... she needs to quit this job. She has to decide how important it is to be "with them" and her job as caregiver. Sounds like she wants to kill 2 birds with one stone and this is NOT acceptable.
When others are around, she will not have her attention on your needs? Now... another option is this.... I don't recommend it -----try it and see how she is. She is there to be there for you (and being paid for this) while wanting to give/get attention from others? You might do this but lower her wages. She probably won't like that but.... less attention to you, less wages.
I remember your original post about it because I commented on it.
In the original post you were upset because the live-in caregiver goes out or sees people when the other caregiver is on duty with your father. You also did not mention her having company or her partner over when it is her work time.
She lives in the house which means it is her home. In your original post you expected her to be prohibited from seeing her partner and other people even if she is careful about Covid safety precautions.
Nearly everyone who commented on your original post agreed that she has to be vaccinated against Covid, and that you really have no right to order an adult to see no one and go nowhere.
I believe it was also explained well enough to you that we no longer have slavery or indentured servitude so you can't expect or command that your "loved one's" care be the sole purpose why a caregiver lives.
You should count yourself lucky that the caregiver stays and is only sending you emails in protest. If I was working for someone who made such demands of me I would leave that job without warning or explanation. The caregiver only owes for the services they are paid for. They do not owe you or your father anything else.
"My father's caregiver lives outside the house with a boyfriend who does not follow social distancing and other CDC guidelines. I have been in touch with the boyfriend and he said he would follow them but he does not appear to be. The caregiver is great and I don't want to bring in yet another new person right now during this crisis, especially as my father has dementia and an unfamiliar face would not be good.
Not sure what to do as I am worried the caregiver's boyfriend's irresponsibility could bring in the virus."
OP cannot dictate lives which I guess others think she can. Amazing.