I am one of five children. I was not chosen to be my mother's caregiver. I love my mother. My mother loves me. My sister controls my mom's every move, so much so, that I am never privvy to information when my mother becomes ill or is admitted to a hospital. I am a frustrated and loving daughter. I visit my mom. I phone my mom. I take her meals, groceries, etc. My sister hogs my mom on every holiday, birthday, etc. And she is secretive. My sister needs money. I do not. I only want to share my mother's life in every way imaginable, yet I get blown off. Again, did I mention that my sister needs the money? What does a sibling of a caregiver do when the caregiver has the inheritance in mind? Not everyone can be the caregiver and my sister is evil. Help! Not all caregivers are good people.
I'm so sorry for your situation.
eye. I will say, though, that I have kept my mouth shut because I do understand the toil of a caregiver. I have never questioned any decisions made on my sister's part. Except leaving myself and my brother in-the-dark. I suspect that she is dipping and not reporting...new car, vacations, etc.,etc. I believe that she fears being found out. Hence, the secrecy. My husband and I are financially settled. We do not want any money. We only want the caregiver ( my sister) to have a moral compass so that we can enjoy my mother in her final years.