My parents, age 88 & 86 live next door to me. My brother, POA and executor lives in NJ. Will this be a problem? Right now my parents are living on their own and are relatively healthy. I will be the designated one to physically care for them when the time comes. I am the surviving daughter. My younger brothers both live in NJ and are very much hands on. We have open communication and they are willing to do whatever it takes when the time comes, but my concerns are that I am not their POA. Can you see that posing a problem? They have a Will and Health Directives which my brother has a copy and is their POA.
Normally, the direct caregiver has both POAs. But with all the electronic devices we have now it is possible to make the distance thing work.
I pay all my Mom's bills online which is so easy. Medical POAs are really there for end of life issues and the decisions that come with them. Everytime you take your Mom to a new doc or hospital, she can designate you a one of her contacts. It is part of the HIPPA act. Then you can call her docs for information.
I think the financial POA should reside with the person who is most capable and responsible for making those types of decisions. It is less complicated if all bills are funneled to one person.
good luck