My sister is both the health care POA and financial POA. Since my father has passed away, things of monetary value have been stolen from my parent's safe. Because of this, I requested to know who my mother's appointed lawyer is to express my concerns that when she passes away other siblings and myself know she is trustworthy in dividing her remaining assets. My question is do I have the right to this information. I have asked to know what she has, and my sister states not much.
SO - do you actually know who did the stealing from the safe? How do other siblings feel? Are you all pitching in to help either with respite or financially? Can you reasonably ask for a regular accounting to be sent around to everyone, just to keep the air clear and everything above board, or are your suspicions high enough and justified enough that you are going to need to consult your own attorney if that is denied?
Sorry more questions than answers. One possible answer if no one can see eye to eye would be something newer called elder mediation too.
Finally-- what are you doing poking around in Mom's safe? Sounds like illegal trespass, so be cautious.