I have a brother who lives 2 hrs from my home ( I have had both my parents living with my husband and I for 10 yrs) he visits dad every other month for a 24 hour visit, at the visit we assume all monies spent on food and etc.He then goes back to his home and lives with his wife(she visits us maybe 2 times a year). My brother knows that my father inherited a small amount of money from his sister who died 6 weeks after my mother died at home. At Christmas my dad gave $5,000.00 cash to my brother and his wife(who did come up for Christmas), after gift giving off home they went, but on the way home stopped and bought a $1,000.00 TV....now it is March and my brother wants $20,000.00 to remodel his kitchen.....I do have POA and I do not think that should be given, my dad is really thinking a lot over this..he is 87 yes old....would appreciate your input....also over the last 5 yrs my brother has gotten over $8,000.00 for being in tight spots!!!!
Your Dad's money will probably be needed for his own care, he may need home care, nursing home care and he'll need the money.
Does your Dad pay you for care/rent?
So I too think it's not a good idea to give brother money..
If your father is well to do, and has longterm care insurance and other substantial income, then he can give gifts to you and your brother without any concern.