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It could be. People can get very passive and seem "not there," and sleep during the last stages. However, you should check with his doctor to see if medications are causing this, just as a precaution. This is hard to watch, I know. Please keep talking to him and holding his hand or touching him, as he likely still has some sense that you are there. Take care of yourself, too. Carol
joan , u are not alone . my father sleeps alot . sleep wake up eat bathroom back to sleep and then wakes up eat its same old thing over and over , maybe a little bit of tv shows then dozes right back to sleep . he is 87 yrs old , has had heart attack and strokes , i do believe that it is coming to the end , a long slow one .... keep comin back and you will feel so much better to have someone to talk to here . im here .... xoxo
My mom has Alzheimer's, sleeps a lot, but when the son she loves the most comes in, she is wide awake, ready to go with him anywhere. I have been her primary caretaker, but got burnt out completley with no help from my 5 brothers and sisters, so I just quit so they would have to step in; I just couldn't do it anymore. But one thing that bothered me, and still do, is the fact she mistreated everyone we brought in to help her, including me since I was there most of the time. She wouldn't let anyone we hired stay more than a couple of days; we finally figured out she doesn't like women, now looking for a male, but it could be the same situation with her not wanting anyone to help her even thought she knows she does things wrong now and can't take care of herself, but continually tells us she can do it. But, like I said earlier, my 2 brothers can get her to do anything, and she will do places with them, but not me except when I take her to the doctor, she goes then. I don't understand how she can be mean to others and sweet as sugar to my two brothers; it makes the other family members thnink she can be somewhat normal when she wants to. It's a mystery, just wondered if anyone else has had this problem (s)?
My 96 year old mother has dementia. She has a full time aid as she cannot walk or do anything for herself. She is sleeping alot and even when she is awake she keeps her eyes closed. She is also becoming combative with her aid, hitting and even biting her when she changes her diapers and washes her. She eats alot less than she used to and has lost weight. The only thing that seems to soothe at times is music and when I visit her and put her to bed we pray together and that seems to calm her down a bit. She talks about dying and seems to be ready for it. I pray for her to go peacefully in her sleep. It is so sad and depressing to see your mom like this. When I leave sometimes I just cry in the car on the way home.
My mom is 76 and was diagnosed with dementia 3years ago. She was at home with us but always scared and paranoid hallucinating that people were calling her names. She was incontinent and only just able to feed herself. I showered her changed her nappies and picked her up when she fell over. She had been going 3 days a week for 4 hours to aged care respite and liking it when she fell in the hall way and broke 4 ribs. She was in hospital for 4 weeks while they managed pain and reassessed her medication. Her decline was swift. She couldn't walk without 2 people that help her or feed herself. She could communicate but not well. They told us we had to put her into respite and consider full time care. I didn't have the heart to tell her what was happening so told her it was rehab so she could learn to walk. That was over 12 months ago and again her decline was rapid. She no longer talks except for gibberish words. She no longer knows me or my Dad despite both of us going to feed her lunch and dinner daily. She is completely immobile and can't even sit up by herself. She does know my brother and my niece when they visit each week. She sleeps a lot and doesn't eat a lot. I don't know how close it is for her but it is hard to watch her
joan, my mom has alzheimer's and she started sleeping a lot like your husband. This started about five months ago, I think, and like others have said, it seems to be a long slow process. Like linda, I keep posting on here so that I can be "with" other people who are going through the same things,or similar things, as I am. good luck. ssk
I am an only child and I watch my mom since I am disabled. Mom has had alzheimers for a while now and she too, sleeps most of the time. She will occasionally have a period of alertness but it's less frequent now. I look at her and emotionally, it is so hard. She is 90 and I know she had a lot of years with a quality life but I want to do this as long as I possibly can and have time with her and never look back with regrets. I feel for the others in this situation as it takes it's toll on us too. She is the only one who has stuck with me through thick and thin.
Mom is sleeping more now as well. She is 94 and has hardly eaten anything for the past two weeks. She gets very dizzy and faint if she lies flat back or is standing up/exerting herself, and does not have the strength to hold herself up. I thought she was in the active stage of dying on Monday, so I arranged for the anointing of the sick. She was better the following day, and perks up if she has visitors, but when she is alone and just me, there is a heavy atmosphere and low energy. She doesn't want to do anything, and I can't seem to comfort her at all. Totally different dynamics. Maybe it's because she's comfortable enough with me to be genuine and express what she's feeling. But she has been having chest pain, back pain and shortness of breath, and her breathing, when she's snoozing, can become rapid, then slow. Then she will be very confused, talking when she's half awake, not knowing if it's night or day, not able to tell the difference between TV and reality and converging episodes with real life events. Crying for her mother and father. I do believe this is the beginning of the end, but it is so stressful not knowing if it will be days, weeks, months. On Monday there was such a sense of absence, emptiness, and I felt quite melancholy. It will be so different from dad's passing because he was in a nursing home when he died, and we were told when his death was eminent and we could prepare for it - well, you're never really prepared when it happens. But mom and I have lived in the same apartment for 17 years, so her presence (and lack of it) will be felt more acutely.
My mom is having the same dizziness. Her md said she had a uti and treated her for it, but the dizziness continues. Blood tests were ordered but results aren’t back yet. She gets very dizzy when she lies down or gets up from lying down. Her blood pressure is fine. I am stumped.
Joan, my father had frontal lobe dementia, he slept a lot at the end. But the end meaning months. I don't know about alzheimer's. Are you doing ok? We're here.
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This is hard to watch, I know. Please keep talking to him and holding his hand or touching him, as he likely still has some sense that you are there.
Take care of yourself, too.
Carol
keep comin back and you will feel so much better to have someone to talk to here .
im here .... xoxo
ssk
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