Oh my god, that woman is nuts! My 61 year old mother is suffering from severe osteoarthritis and is currently bed, chair and wheelchair bound. She has done nothing for herself except shower alone in over a year. I cook 3 meals a day, clean her home, shop, bank, pay bills, clean her potty chair daily, listen to her cry and moan and wish herself dead, watch her take pill after pill and still bad mouth me to my brothers whom live within several miles and do NOTHING. I want to run away. What do I do?
I do thank you all for just letting me type on like a crazed fool. Feels good not to bother my husband and daughter with this naggin about mom. Good luck to all of you with the same life. What life? Does anyone go out anymore? Can't go more then 2 hours from the house or I get anxiety about what if????
It is really hard being a caregiver to the elderly. The last year of my life has been pure hell. My mother also puts down her children and is very self-centered, but she has always been that way so it is not due to her old age. Still I'll do all in my power to see that she taken care of, in our case a nursing home.
It sounds like you need help too with her care. The internet can sometimes be great in finding what services are available. Good luck to you.
I sure know what you mean about wanting to run away, I started wishing that I would get amnesia so I wouldn't remember or know what was happening.
Hope it works out!
Best,
Jackie
Hang in there and keep posting. Someone will have some good constructive suggestions for you.
Seriously, if your mom is in her own home it sounds like she could use some help. Have you asked her doctor about getting provider assistance for her? Home health care? Meals on wheels could help you with the food issues, plus the added benefit of having someone check in on her once daily. So much of the available services depend on the state you live and her financial status. Since you are doing her banking, can she afford to hire household help or a daily companion? Many folks have problems spending their money on such help, especially if they have a family member who will do it all, but maybe you need to put your foot down and see if you can get her to hire help if she can afford it.