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Safety was my proverbial "line in the sand" I said if it was no longer safe for ME to care for my Husband at home I would have to place him. Or if it was no longer safe for HIM for me to care for him I would have to place him. Thankfully with the help of the VA and "my"/our Hospice Team it never came to that. I go tall the supplies, equipment and support that I needed. The important thing though my Husband was not aggressive, he was compliant and that made all the difference!
Yes, compliance makes all the difference. My mother won’t even acknowledge she has Alzheimer’s despite, Drs, testing and MRI brain scans. My parents live together but my father is 94 with his own health problems and troubled mobility. He isn’t really her caregiver. More like a full time babysitter with an eye on her. Unfortunately, I can see his own cognitive decline and now he’s jumping on her bandwagon because she’s always controlled the relationship and he’s believing what she says, and what she wants to do.
I probably should have placed my husband in MC sooner than I did, but my children encouraged me to do it when he could no longer be safely left alone for even a few minutes. He fell down the stairs when I was in the shower. He would leave the house if I didn't keep the alarm on and one time wandered off in the woods. Start looking for a place now. At this point, you'll start seeing new challenges every day.
I agree with everyone. When I finally decided 3 months ago now to put my husband in Memory Care after 12 yrs of taking care of him it was because of safety for him and honestly a little for me. It was gut wrenching the first two months but I am inch by inch better. Please consider the safety issue.
I encourage you to speak honestly and frequently with his PCP about any changes in behaviors, mental status or physical status that you observe. Safety for him and you are the priority. Safety issues and changes in behaviors can arise in the blink of an eye and are not always gradual. Do not hesitate to call 911 for help and transport of him to ER for assessment if at any time you deem the situation unable to handle or unsafe for either of you. I am including ' you' in this because ' you' are coping but may not like so many primary caregivers recognize or want to ask for help via 911 or other services and, you could become at some point verbally or even at risk for unintentional physical, emotional abuse by a dementia patient. So this is a longer more circuitous answer to your question but, I hope you will use it to help you decide when placement in " memory care" may be advised for safety reasons . Always confer with PCP or Geriatric specialist or a specialist assigned to him, but do not hesitate to make your voice and needs heard. and, you may want to go ahead and start learning more about long term memory care units available for your beloved. A skilled capable licensed social worker or case manager may help navigate options. You can also confer with an Elder Law attorney for help navigating complex systems caring for the aging and ill. Be sure that you have all necessary POA etc papers in order for decision making authority.
Rather than get our lay opinions, please get your spouse evaluated by a competent medical doctor. Since your spouse has some memory issues, ask for a referral to a neurologist for evaluation and treatment. In early stages of most types of dementia, medication is helpful to maintain the person at home for many years. The doctor can give you a list of signs/symptoms to guide your decisions over the course of this disease process.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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I said if it was no longer safe for ME to care for my Husband at home I would have to place him. Or if it was no longer safe for HIM for me to care for him I would have to place him.
Thankfully with the help of the VA and "my"/our Hospice Team it never came to that. I go tall the supplies, equipment and support that I needed.
The important thing though my Husband was not aggressive, he was compliant and that made all the difference!
Here is an article from the Care Topics on Memory Care.
It might be helpful.
https://www.agingcare.com/articles/when-is-it-time-to-place-a-loved-one-with-dementia-188309.htm
So this is a longer more circuitous answer to your question but, I hope you will use it to help you decide when placement in " memory care" may be advised for safety reasons . Always confer with PCP or Geriatric specialist or a specialist assigned to him, but do not hesitate to make your voice and needs heard. and, you may want to go ahead and start learning more about long term memory care units available for your beloved.
A skilled capable licensed social worker or case manager may help navigate options. You can also confer with an Elder Law attorney for help navigating complex systems caring for the aging and ill.
Be sure that you have all necessary POA etc papers in order for decision making authority.
Practice good self care !
Blessings and peace ....
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