My Dad's caregiver will not start my Dad on incontinence underwear because he says once they start wearing it, they won't use the normal toilet. Related to an earlier post, curious to see if anyone has found this to be true. By the way, part of my Dad's problem is him trying to clean it up himself, and doing just good enough so you can't see it, and aren't sure where to clean to get rid of the smell .... yikes.... it's always something. I would think the best idea is to wear the incontinence drawers at night since that is when most accidents happen. Also, he uses a p-pot that hangs on the rung of his bed, so these accidents are mostly runny BMs I think (I'm only caregiver occasionally but we are looking into having professional help and I would like to keep things as easy as possible for all concerned.)
Yep, my Dad isn't the best at cleaning himself after using the toilet. I think as one ages it becomes more difficult to reach behind to clean up.
I am just amazed at how Dad can get "stuff" on his suspenders.... [sigh]. Just proves his eyesight isn't very good, and he gets nose blind to odors.
Most of us would not use a diaper voluntarily, try putting one on and see how difficult is is psychologically to give yourself permission to use it. As long as they are given the opportunity they can continue to use the toilet, my mom has no level of self control at all any more, she is not even aware when she is going, but when I place her on the toilet she invariably pees, some part of her brain still knows what to do.
Frankly, I would seriously question the level of knowledge of this caregiver in other areas too.