Hi Good Folks, I am transgender female to male for many years and while I am most blessed and very fortunate to still have my parents alive, it is difficult to deal with doctors, housekeepers, home nurses because they still call me a girl.
Thankfully they will on occasion refer to me as their son, but it sure is a difficult situation when they don't. I am 6' tall, big build without being fat, flat chest, full beard and very deep voice.
They both take Aricept and Amenda and are doing pretty well. My Dad is 86 and Mom is 85. They are dear, sweet people. They still live in their home alone. My girlfriend and I are both good cooks and we bring them healthy home -cooked meals several times a week, which we are glad to do. They won't go to the community Senior Center for lunch even though we have offered to go with them.
I mow their lawn and do yardwork, handyman chores even if it interferes with my work. My Mom had two miscarriages before me (I am firstborn) and took a lot of drugs which no one knew the consequences of, no doubt, in 1957 in order to have a live baby.
It just hurts me when they call me a girl, and people look at them like they are totally cuckoo, plus it just stresses me out. I know it is hardest for family to accept and I have patience with them but it is hard.
Anyone else in this situation?
I am sorry this is painful to you. Can you possibly find some humour in this, and laugh it off? Whether it is painful or funny is up to you. You can't control your parents, but you can control your attitude.
Good luck!