He is abrasive, arrogant and rude. He should not be driving, but, he takes the car and drive. He was told by his doctors not to drive. I told his doctor about his behavior and they have set up him for to take the driving test to assess him. He has daughters from a previous marriage and he talks about me negatively to his daughters and I can hear him. They only tell him to behave. I am tire of living my life for him. I have been his faithful caregiver and advocate, but, he does not appreciate. I feel that it is not worth the fight. He does not love me as much as I Iove him. Words of love does not mean anything from, because action speaks louder than words. I am at the point of resentful and hatred towards him. I feel I do not have any other alternative, but, to leave.
Reading up on another condition, Asperger's, (The other side of Aspergers) the author talked about "if you decide to stay", and gave recommendations.
My advice is consider your choices. If you decide to stay, don't torture yourself by wondering if you should leave. Put your energy into making it work.
If you decide to leave, don't torture yourself with guilt. Maybe some distance will find you both down the road as good friends.
It is the indecision that is torture.
Then I see my very elderly parents holding hands while sitting on the sofa watching TV.... so sweet.... how I wish I had that in my life.
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He could also be angry at himself for the physical and mental changes that are happening to him. I'd be upset, too. So who does he take it out on? You, of course, because you are the closest to him.
If this was reverse, and you were the one with dementia, would you want him to leave you? It's something to think about.
And with time his dementia will become worse, then you would will to think about hiring Caregivers to help him out or to place him in a continuing care facility. That will give you a breather.
Ask yourself this: given what you've written, is there any reason why you SHOULD stay? If not, begin to make your own independent plans.