Mom has several children , all adults. One of her children thinks he can control EVERYTHING about mom. the nursing home he placed mom in, has encouraged family members to take mom out for daily outings, but says POA hasn't approved mom's children to do so. I feel the POA has overstepped his authority. This is not the only red flag the POA has done, there are numerous, which points to taking advantage of elder...elder abuse.
Are there Senior Advocates that are available to represent mom and see to it that the POA is investigated? or is this something that each sibling would need to do in hiring their own attorney?
A POA has no rights, they have duties and responsibilities to act in the best interest of the person who granted them POA.
As people age, especially with illnesses and dementia leaving a familiar place is difficult and disorients them upon return. If mum has dementia she may tell your brother that she doesn't want to go out -thinking it pleases him and then when she sees you it's a different story. It's all complicated and it can help to see the challenge from other sides before creating hard feelings. Doc
Modern plans can allow for a POA monitor who can request copies of financial records. I generally do not advise clients to name multiple POAs due to deadlocks.
Taking her out of the nursing home, while many people think this is a common sense way to improve her social life and happiness, can be much more complicated. Some nursing homes treat this as a medical decision or a safety decision. It could be a medical decision because after mom returns to the nursing home after an outing she may be agitated, disconcerted, and difficult so the POA has decided that its too much for her. Also, as someone else has discussed, many people are purposely disallowed from removing someone as they have a history of manipulation or gold digging.
I am assuming in my answer that your mom is not competent and that POA has already been activated for her. If she IS still competent, then POA is not activated UNLESS it is DPOA...if DPOA doesn't exist and she is still competent, then the person calling the shots now really has no rights.
Angel
Can you pass all that?
They become power mad goes to there head
POA for finance only is only that
If mum is in a care home NO he can not stop you taking your mum out
He does not own your mother
Get in there take her out she is your mother to
No one as the right to control body and soul
Do it she's your mum
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