My husband is very healthy but is in 6th stage of early onset dementia. He seems to understand some questions and directions sometimes. He is starting to lose control of his bowel movements and can't seem to do anything but watch tv and listen to music. Dr has him on medicine 4 x day now so he is calm most of the time. I know he will have to go into a NH but WHEN? He loves to be home. We have lived here 45 years.
Some people like to establish a boundary in advance.
For example, “I can take care of my LO, until the LO is double incontinent.”
or
”I can keep him at home, unless he begins to wander from our home.”
You may want to use this time to establish your “line in the sand”.
You could tour some facilities and find one that would be up to your standards, BEFORE you need one.
That way, you can have a no-pressure meeting, or video or phone call with the facility or facilities before it’s an emergency, and you are possibly pressured into making a decision. 🙂
The different care options include family care, in-home paid carers, and different types of facilities. They all have different care levels and costs of one sort or another. Your husband is healthy, so incontinence is probably the biggest care issue, together with the need for someone to be with him.
Why are you asking the question? Are you being pressured one way or the other? If you give more information, our posters could help more.