My mother is only 59 with moderately advanced Parkinson's Disease. She has lost her job, and lives by herself 8 hours away from me, her nearest relative. Her handling of money has become increasingly irresponsible to the point that she has cut down or completely stopped her medication. She has isolated herself from almost everyone, and lied to me about getting help from disability services. I am 29, pregnant with my first child, and have no idea what to do.
When you get the diagnosis of a chronic horrible disease, like Parkinson's you go into shock, then she got whammied by losing her job. She needs time to rest and regroup. No harm will come to her if she doesn't take the medicine. It doesn't slow the progression; it simply mitigates the symptoms. Give her some time,
She should apply for Social Security disability. It isn't welfare or charity. She paid into this her working life, and is entitled to the benefits. There are disability lawyers, they are the best way to go. They get paid when you receive the SS. It is a long process, so get started now, as she will recieve payments retroactive to the month she filed.
I would give her time. Parkinson's can take years to become so bad that she will need asistence. However you will need to monitor the situation. Falls are your biggest problem. She needs to fall proof her house. She should also get her bones and muscles as strong as she can from aerobic exercise and weightlifting. You can learn how to fall and how to get yourself up.
HLPME2 said it best, you need to be there for her. Skype every couple days. 8 hours away, is too far, can she move closer to you? About the depression, I think having a new grandchild will snap her out of that. Learn everything you can about Parkinson's. Don't worry, things work out for the best. Enjoy your pregnancy and your new baby. The need and work for your Mom, comes farther down the road. Have faith in her, and her ability to cope.
Depression is another issue to deal with. It is a tough disease to deal with. Good Luck. Duke
While you and she seek this treament, the physician should be informed of her attitude of non-compliance. Depression is suspected here. Her age, however, is NOT AN ISSUE. 59 is not "old", or even "elderly". The big issue is how to deliver those meds, by whom, how frequently..
You should be concerned about your own happiness, safety and upcoming parenthood. GOOD LUCK
Try talking to her about seeing her doctor regarding her medication and the possibility she may be depressed.
Also, if she refuses any help, you can call Adult Protective Services in her area and notify them of your concerns. They may send a social worker to your mother's home.
Please be careful with your own mental health and health of your unborn baby. Stress can be very bad.