My husband loves to tell stories about himself and his life. These stories can go on and on for 20-30 minutes. If I try to change the subject, he just glares at me and keeps talking. I have heard these same stories over and over but when he “traps” unsuspecting people who don’t want to be impolite, I don’t know what to do. Help!
Thank you again forum members!
Most often, the only time a person with ALZ is able to hear themselves make any sense and hear themselves string words together without effort is when they are telling of something out of their long-term past.
God love him, let him talk.
This isn't just listening to a long winded friend telling a story; it is dysfunctional brain chemistry.
This person is exhausted / overwhelmed / doesn't want to be 'impolite' - she needs to set limits for her own sanity. Otherwise, she will burnout as so many do who do not know how to set limits and re-adjust their thinking of self-care vs being impolite, guilt ridden, overwhelmed.
It is a learning curve.
The person I am with has Alzheimer's
Please be patient
Thank you
Hand one out to the person DH is rambling on with. Here is a link to purchase these cards:
https://www.alzstore.com/please-be-patient-alzheimers-cards-p/0187.htm
Good luck!
You said Mom suffered from ALZ so you are probably aware that his ALZ is probably worsening. That trying to reason with him will have no effect. That he is becoming more self-centered. I believe they become like children. Small children are self-centered. We as parents teach them not to be. But someone suffering from a Dementia cannot be taught or trained. Their short-term memory loss prevents that.
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