I want the doctors to sign letters saying my LO is incapacitated because she has beginning stages of dementia and mental illness, and she uses a can andcwalker, she doesn't drive, and she keeps shopping online, or gets a friend to visit once a month for 3 to 4 days and nights, will take her shopping, and now she is trying to buy a dog from the friend, and she really can't take care of it, and I will be stuck with the care. I was told that I needed to freeze the accounts, or make it to where she can't sign checks without me, but for my DPOA to be legal, she needs to be incapacitated. I don't know if this is true or not?
We could have a good relationship, but LO has a bad attitude towards her situation, and won't or can't communicate with me at all or properly, takes me trying help and/or keeping her best interest as i am the enemy and is being incidious, and the stress dealing with her roller-coaster mood swings and antics are wearing me down, like i am sure it does most everyone. Thank you, again, for your feedback.
as ( imo ) it should be ..
From what you wrote in your profile, it doesn't seem as though your relationship with your mother is a positive one. Are you sure you want to be taking care of her?
Incapacitated generally has nothing to do with physical disabilities and is a judgment very hard to get when mental capacity declines, I doubt you would be able to get a doctor to declare you mother mentally incompetent due to past mental illness and early dementia.