My MIL has been in independent living for close to 3 yrs. My husband and I are basically her assisted living. We do shopping, laundry, bathing, fixing her hair twice weekly, remind her to brush her teeth, take her to all appts, including pedicure/manicure, clean her apartment. All she does is sit, eat and poop. She can walk good with a walker, but is very unsteady without it. She has been a lazy person her whole life. She is deaf in one ear, about 25% hearing in the other. Hard to communicate with her. No one wants to be around her for that reason. Would assisted living be better for her or just us?
I think that you already know, in fact, that it is time, and in all likelihood past time.