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Your mother may or may not be suffering from dementia. However, elderly people are being abused by others who know that if the elder reports the abuse noone will believe them...making them the perfect target. Your mother may have gone back to Africa because she couldn't take the abuse from your husband...worth looking into.
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Since I am dealing with dementia/Alzheimer's with my mom. Those symptoms are common and often times due to a UTI. She doesn't have a UTI, but you didn't say if she had been diagnosed with any type of dementia at this point. But as others have said, you do need to seek medical help for her. At least then you will know what is going on and perhaps help her with some medications to calm down the symptoms. Often times after mom first moved in with me, I wouldn't tell her where we were going until we got to the doctor's office. She hated having to see the doctor. Good luck with your mom. You are stronger than you think. Listen to your gut, it has a way of steering you in the right direction. Remember to take care of yourself so that you CAN help your mom.
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Your mother is displaying symptoms of dementia and needs to be evaluated by a neurologist specializing in dementia/geriatrics. These are common delusions of people whose brains cannot decipher correct signals.
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Obviously Your por Mother is very unwell, and You have confirmed it is not a UTI therefore I would suggest You go to Your Mothers GP and the Dr will make an appointment for Your Mother to be examined by a Geriatrition.
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Bring her to the doc and check for a UTI asap
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Yes, as Churchmouse says, see if a trusted pastor or other friend can convince her of need to get fully checked out w doctors -- geriatricians -- who are skilled at understanding signs of dementia. It comes across as symptoms of dementia -- paranoia, delusions, anxiety, also depression. This can be caused by brain diseases like Alzheimer's and Lewy Body Dementia, but also vascular dementia and other dementia's from bodily issues. Look up dementia symptom's and alzheimer's association. As others said, there are some drugs that may help these symptoms. Weight loss could also mean cancer. I hope you will be able to help her whether here or afar.
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Destiny, my mother experienced similar hallucinations and delusions which signaled the onset of her dementia. She has Lewy Body Dementia which is characterized by hallucinations and other symptoms in the early stages. My mom also lost quite a bit of weight. She really needs to be seen by a medical provider and get evaluated. Hopefully, you can convince her to come back to the States? Please keep us posted.
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Paranoia is typical of some forms of dementia.
She should be evaluated and tested.
Medications for the paranoia can help with some forms of dementia but in others some medications can be problematic so is it important to get an accurate diagnosis.
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Dehydration can cause such things. Even when we "think" the loved one is hydrated, they may not be. My husband experienced this [Dec.2015] and after giving him Gatorade, within a few hours he was coming out of it. Amazing how the body works. My husband has been fighting Alzheimer's for over 5 yrs now. I still have him on a watered down amount of Gatorade every day! God Bless you all......
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The OP's mother is 76.

She has suffered severe stomach pain. Her skin itches. She has lost weight. She is apparently also suffering delusions which lead her to believe that the OP's husband has been plotting to kill her in various ways. These are all very distinct clinical signs of there being something seriously, medically wrong.

Destiny, you say your mother has "gone back to Africa" - where is she now, and where are you?

If your mother really believes that her ailments are the result of your husband's (imaginary) actions, it will be difficult to get her to a doctor because she will have no confidence that the doctors can do anything for her. But would she perhaps listen to a responsible pastor or minister, who would tell her firmly that first of all she needs to find out what trouble is being caused in her body so that the best way to deal with it can be worked out?
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If it is not a UTI. It could be the beginnings of a Dementia or alzheimer's stages. Take your Mother to a Geriatric/Family Doctor. Whatever it is, you both need to know. Also, keep in mind, the elderly patient tries to hide what is going on with them and may not tell you. My Mother-In-Law received a Dementia diagnosis well before we found out. Depending on the person, they can hide illness for a long time.
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Sometimes noises and sights are misunderstood due to problems with vision and hearing and the person struggling to interpret what they are seeing and hearing. This is particularly the case if the person has dementia. Other causes might be infections but it sounds like maybe she has seen a doctor already to exclude this. You say that she has already gone back to Africa but you want her to come back to stay with you? Who is looking after her in Africa? Does she have any past history of mental illness? Some mental illnesses do cause visual and auditory hallucinations. 76 is still relatively young but people can have dementia at quite young ages and in the early stages it can be difficult for family members to recognise. It sounds like this may be a possibility as well. It would be good if she could have a full assessment from her doctor, an elder care physician especially will be used to dealing with the complex issues faced by the older patient which may be the root of what your mother is experiencing.
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You didn't mention how old your mother is, but you should probably take her to the doctor and explain what's going on. I've taken care of my aunts and mother, and both of my aunts started to have hallucinations before they passed as a part of their decline. My mother has anxiety, so her doctor prescribed an anti-anxiety pill that is very mild, but it helps her sleep and eases her mind. When she doesn't take it, I can tell right away. I am finding that she is still misinterpreting things others say and do, and it is due in part to her advanced age (she's almost 90). The best you can do is consult her doctor. I wish you the best.
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yes she did and it was ok. thanks for your answer
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Has your Mom been tested for an urinary tract infection? For an elder, getting a UTI can cause a lot of strange behaviors.
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