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My husband has heart prob 3 bypass, diabetes, gout, and now cancer! 7 surgery. he eats with a feeding tube! 29 years am tired.? and how can I have a life again will I ever? I am 70 not much time left
He told me when I fried a steak that It make him sick to his stomach! the smell then he went to his swallowing therapy the next day and they told him he could not smell!!!! Control!!! I know but I haven't cooked any meat in-house scene thine
wow! thats a long time care giving... i think i'd have run away by now! I'm sure you are fed up of all the praising and glorifying and just wish you could breath again without that niggling feeling at the back of your mind that just never lets up... gotta feed, gotta wipe, gotta adjust, gotta change, gotta bath, gotta pay attention... constantly, gotta feed, gotta wipe, gotta adjust, gotta change, gotta bath, gotta pay attention... constantly, gotta feed, gotta wipe, gotta adjust, gotta change, gotta bath, gotta pay attention... constantly is this misery-go-round. Just start to 'not want to run from this', if you can just sit with a cup of tea and sit in 'acceptance', and take a few breaths and accept that you want it all to go... its allowed you know :) Its how i'm trying to, every single minute of every single day ... trying to accept that i need to accept!!
After, sometimes when people are losing control they try and grab onto whatever they can control - like whether or not you can cook meat in the house! And I think this is what is happening to you. He is trying his darndest to control you in whatever way he can. There are no right answers here only choices you can make. Turn the fan on when you cook, you pay for the food after all, so you can eat what you want. If he is a vegetarian, fine, but you don't have to be. Being a caregiver is stressful enough without someone telling you what you can or cannot eat. This is a personal choice. If the weather is ok where you are, go for a walk and give yourself some special me time - reading a book, whatever makes you happy, and remember boundries, just because he is sick doesn't mean that he makes all the rules, rmember to be gentle on yourself and give what you can but no more than that. You still have a right to your own life, without guilt. Blessings to you, Lindaz.
OK its taken me a while but I did go buy some meat and cooked it (once!!) He went to dr last week and they told him he has low blood platelets should go to hematologist . NOPE they just stick you! much has happened but today he was going to try to eat a bake potato. and he had a potato in his hand put it down and said don't we have any potatoes? I said you had one in your hand. He said OH I did??/ I"M scared
That is a lot to deal with do you go to church I found strength in God with my pastor and friends of church find a faith build church can I ask where do you live I can help you find a church I am praying for you ♡
no I do not go to church, did many years ago and know a church family can be a lot of help. but when I needed that help it wasn't there. And do not have the belief anymore. Will not go to a church but thank you for the thoughts
He now has a cancer on his arm so more surgery! This poor man he was just getting a little stronger and now this. He is trying so. I just want to cry for him . when I was going to work today I had a tire low, so came home and took his car. When I got home tonight he had took my car to shop and fixed the tire. This is a guy who can barley walk!!!
came home tonight and went into my bed room all my sweats pants and shirts were clean and folded on my bed!!!!id you washed my sweats?? he sais yes if you wore them one more night I was going take you to the homeless shelter!!! love this guy
I think those thoughts come with burnout and depression. Depression of wanting our lives back how they were. I have those thoughts daily. Just wishing it would all end. I feel so ashamed at te same time. Guilt for having those thoughs yet guilt and resentment for not feeling I can be with my 5 kids as much. Feel like I'm losing at both ends. I know it will end but realistically it could be years. My kids will be grown. 😔
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
hope the surgery for the cancer on the arm is a minor one. he's a sweetheart at heart even if his memory is going.