Will Medicaid take all of my mother's SSI and disability checks? How will she be able to buy things she needs and pay her bills?
I have posted so many times on here I know that everyone has ran out of ideas to help me. My Mom is still in a motel and exhausted all her income and still doesn't have an apartment to move into. We have called and went by and talk to the manager, but she continues to say they are still working on it and moms name is on it. But that is it, no timeline. I have tried to talk to mom about going in a facility because she really needs 24/ 7 help. She must self-catch she has a terrible time trying to stay on the side of the bed at night without falling or getting in/out of bed in her wheelchair. But she will not hear to it. She says Medicaid will take her checks and she cannot afford it because she has bills and things that she must have. I don't know what else to do, I have called different agencies to see if they can help but to no avail. I have helped her put applications in at all the apartments for the elderly and disabled in our city and all are filled and have waiting lists. She wants to come back and live with us. She asked me today, and I have told her time after time it won't work! Two families cannot get along she has her way, and we have ours and living us causes conflict. What more can one say! She is almost on the street one more payment to the motel and that is it. She blames my daughter for her not being able to come back and live with us. It's not just my daughter my husband was at his wit's end with her. Everyone tried to be nice and not say anything to hurt her feelings, but she just will not let it go. She keeps bringing up that we told her that she would never have to go to a nursing home facility but sometimes people say things at a time when they think they will be able to do those things, but when reality comes, you are not able to keep those promises. I don't understand why she doesn't understand that. Why can't she see she needs help!
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I remain where I have been in the beginning of all this, hoping that your mother will become a ward of the state and be placed in an extended care facility. I continue to believe that you, and any other family members, are entirely helpless to help in a case such as hers.
Yes, when mother is in care her funds will all go to that care.
Bills will remain unpaid. This is a loss that those lending money accept. Many who are in debt never have the means to repay the debt.
The trick to know here Butterfly is that YOU, yourself, or other family members NEVER should pay a debt of hers. By making even one payment with your own check and your own funds and with your own name may mean that you have "legally assumed the debt". Then they will hound YOU. Otherwise, the old adage of "you can't get money from a turnip" hold here. Where there is no money, they don't get paid, and the debt is written off as a business expense.
The debtors check to see if there is a home if the debt is substantial, and in court may get an order to put a lien on a home so that upon sale of the home they enter the line of debtors waiting to be paid.
It's good to hear from you, Butterfly, but sad to hear that things remain where they were. Wishing you the best.
In the meantime, if your mother won't cooperate about going into a facility, then you may just have to let her fend for herself when her money runs out.
Have you called her out for blaming your daughter?
She has over stepped the mark on many occassions and should be set back.
No, Medicaid will not take all her money, she will spend all of her money for her living expenses at the facility, big difference but, no different then paying a motel everything you have. Her bills will have to go unpaid if she enters a facility on medicaid, it is what it is.
Is it time for you to step back and let her fail so she can be forced to get the care she needs?
As far as the, I assume, hud apartment fiasco going on, have you contacted the adminstrative office and asked for help from the actual agency that oversees these places?
I have no useful suggestions beyond these.
Great big warm hug and prayers that this is sorted out soon.