We’re in Illinois and our MC has a booth that families can come and visit inside facility. It’s not the same. My mom has vascular dementia, so when she comes to window visits or this booth, she becomes disinterested. If we’re not taking her out, she’s disappointed. I can see her face fall.😢 I know vaccines are starting to spread around, but not in time for Christmas.
I will be with the most important person in my life, my sweet husband.
That is what matters the most to me.
Our oldest daughter may be with us. If she is it will be a blessing. If not, there will be another time to visit.
Our youngest daughter recently moved far away so we will FaceTime.
We talk to our daughters nearly everyday so it’s not like we wait for a holiday for a ‘special’ gathering.
Will FaceTime with my cousins, nieces, nephews, godchildren, friends and neighbors.
Hopefully mom will be wearing her hearing aid and we can chat for a few minutes on the phone.
I understand how you feel because I'm pretty much in the same boat. My mom actually did better with the window visits than when I came about a half dozen times since mid September for an actual outdoor visit. My mom couldn't hear me when we were outside because we were far apart and there was a partition. She also seemed disinterested so I ended up leaving feeling down and exhausted because it was hard. I just really wanted her to get out of not only her apartment in Memory Care, but just out in general for some fresh air. We live in the SW, so it's good weather. Now, they started requiring testing just for an outdoor visit so I'm back to the window visits.
So for Thanksgiving, I brought a piece of pumpkin pie with a mini cup of vanilla ice cream and had them take it to her room while we visited.
Christmas Eve and Christmas Day we will do the same thing. I bought her a Christmas bag of Ghirardelli Chocolate Caramels and will give that to her as a little gift along with a card. I noticed that when I mail her cards, she doesn't open them and obviously the facility doesn't either. I already brought her a Poinsettia that she could enjoy during the month.
I hope you can find something that will work for the both of you to at least make it somewhat special even if it can't be like we've done in the past.