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We had to place my mom into skilled nursing in March. She was having delusions. Insisting she was not in her home she’s lived in since 1975. Insisting people who have been dead for decades are still alive. Both my brother and I have seen her within the past week, and she seems much more with it. We both had phone calls with her today and it was almost normal. I know dementia doesn't get better. She did have COVID at Christmas which is when things really took a turn. She still cannot safely walk or be alone, and there is no more money for home care. We can’t take her home. We are actually clearing it out making it ready for sale. It’s been painted, is getting new windows and a new front entryway. Things the house desperately needed but my mom refused to do.

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Because Mom is probably getting care, getting fed regularly and getting her meds regularly, she probably is better. Even having people around who engage with her is good for her. But as u say, she stills needs care that u can't give her. And the Dementia will worsen so she is where she should be.
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My mom moved into AL in April. She now seems "normal" when I talk her and it's because of the medication management, 3 meals a day, socializing, and lack of worrying about the house, etc because she is being looked after (I am a long distance solo caregiver).

These moments of normality are actually both a godsend and a curse for me in some ways because they make me question whether she needs to be in AL. Then I take a breath and remember what happened before AL and I know it's the right thing.

It sounds like she is in a good location. Please enjoy the "normal" days/moments when they appear. Good luck.
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That can happen in facilities that have expertise in treating dementia. They know what to do. She may be "normal" now for many years. If they have physical therapy services for her she may even improve physically.
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Welcome to the forum.

My mom lived to be 95 years old. She had Parkinson’s disease and dementia. She had good days and bad days.

It truly is an emotional roller coaster caring for our loved ones. Wishing you peace as you continue on your caregiving journey.

Good luck with selling your mother’s home.
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Same with my Mom when she first went into AL, she was eating and sleeping better than when she was home alone. Socializing helped too. She seemed to have improved for awhile . The dementia will become more apparent again with good days and bad days .
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Bolliveb:

Welcome to the Forum. Please only post your question one time. It seems you have no real question for us at present.

I am glad that your mother is doing well in care. This is not at all unusual. In fact my own brother had the same experience. He suffered from Lewy's dementia in its early stages, and one in ALF he was much better. The staff and doctors told me that often when a person is in care, doesn't have to worry about shopping, meals, bills, they improve markedly. Esp in terms of hallucinations which came for him more when he was anxious.
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bolliveb May 2023
I am sorry this posted more than once. I am doing it from my phone and there is no indication that it has posted, unlike on a computer.
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