My father Is a depressed, workaholic, alcoholic, narcissistic personality & is always combative, critical and dismissive to his children.

My sister and I were abused by him as children, and he said his verbal, physical and emotional abuse was a tool to make us tough. My sister took her life in 2014. I barely recovered, as we were very close, and I tried for years to help her. It was a viscous cycle, as my father crushed her soul. Mine, too. We both tried to gain his love and approval, but we both knew we would never get it. I know now, that he has severe mental illness. No one normal would treat their children with such contempt. I am his only caregiver now. I have to be involved, because he is capable of anything. He has been arrested for 6 DUI’s, blames others of course, shoplifting, blames the store, and recently went out with criminals to try and exploit them? Of course, they got the better of him. He’s crazy. I have cameras all over his home, now, as I cannot take it anymore. Has anyone else encountered an elder who acts like this? He acted like this when he was younger, too. He believes that he is normal and everyone else has problems? I’m exhausted. Both my sister and I have been nothing but good to him, always. We were both great students and gainfully employed. He always challenged our education. He would criticize and put us down. He would show people outside the family a version of himself, that was charming and kind. He was not at all like that at home. He has no boundaries, and does whatever he wants, whenever he wants. He has started to criticize my daughters by telling them that one is prettier than the other. I had to draw a very firm line and tell him, that he could no longer see them, if he could not control his behavior. Of course, he looked at me and said, “It’s always the same thing with you.” I guess I am just looking for someone to read this and tell me that I am not crazy. That this man is sick.