Does your Cat (or any pet) misbehave since caregiving your loved one?
Have you been required to take care of your loved one's pet after they have passed? Does your pet have cute antics that entertain your loved one?
And finally, has the cat or dog transferred their loyalty to your Mother?
Cat nip does help, but then the other 2 cats take it from her because she is easily bullied by them. Treats would also help then fat cat ( lol, yes that's her name) will come and want treats , which we try not to give her many treats.
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I didn't mean to be critical - I hope it didn't come across that way! I can imagine how your lovely cat is driving you mad with her constant need for attention.
We sprayed the Feliway in areas that made them safe spaces for Spot (our ginger, stripey cat - of course 😸) - near his bed etc. The plug-in was placed near his food bowl because he was too anxious to eat and drink during the day when we were out at work/school. At one point he would only eat if we were sitting with him and stroking him while he ate, or feeding him from a spoon (I'm absolutely serious). The pheromone product really helped, as did his 2 favourite toys which he took everywhere with him - his catnip filled stuffed fish and his feather and string on a stick.
I hope you find something that works.
I dealt with his behaviour tics with Feliway (the brand name of a spray or plug-in that delivers pheromones that calms pets) and toys with catnip, which he would cuddle up to, once he'd stopped going crazy with them!
Perhaps you could use an old tee shirt or sweater of yours, with your smell on, to place on your cat to comfort her?
I only ever used a spray bottle a couple of times when teaching him to not go on tables and counters. Otherwise, I wouldn't use that - especially when it's taken this cat so long to trust you and feel safe.
Ask the vet (or pet supplies store) about other ways to calm cats and also about what pheromone treatment brand is available where you are. Good luck!
ITRR - she is not a GS - she's a mutt and from a reservation so I expect she is used to eating scraps. R does speak kindly, I am sure. It's how he is, and maybe it will work in time. You could be right that a stern voice would do it. I know there are several reasons why a dog barks and I suspect this is a combination of them. Her owners are away all day so she may want attention. She seems to be somewhat fearful and may well be territorial etc. Hopefully he can work something out with the owners. There's always animal control but that's a last resort. Meanwhile it is very hard on him. We have to find a solution.
I have found that speaking kindly and gently to them, every single time, has really been beneficial to shut them up. Takes a bit of time and an occasional no bark! but, it does eventually stop.
If being kind and gentle doesn't register with this dog, maybe telling it to go home in a stern voice can help.
As a German Shepard owner, I would encourage you to ask the neighbors if and what you can feed it. Many GS have glass stomachs and I pray nobody gives my girl anything to eat, changes in her diet make her puke and always on the carpet. (I know you didn't say it was a GS, I am just saying that not all dogs can get treats.)
I feel for R, insistent barking grates on the nerves all the way to the marrow. I pray that the dog figures out he is allowed to be there and it doesn't have to protect anything from him.
Hopefully the dog owners will work with hubby, maybe try buttering them up, make them cookies or something.
Too right, the owners need training. A bark collar might work if they would be around enough to use it. Yesterday, Saturday, so perhaps not a work day for them, when G went out she started to bark, then suddenly she ran away. Could it be the owners called her?
Yeah, sounds like that dog needs a lot more than a few bones. He needs some doggy behavior classes. Which usually is more about training the owner 😝. That really would be so hard to listen to all day, I feel for your hubby.
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Ahh, your poor kitty has been deprived of affection and now that she has found someone she trusts she is desperate for affection and is trying to make up for lost time. Rocky was basically feral on the farm. It has taken 6 years for her to allow me to pick her up a few times. Does she like treats? I can train Rocky to some things with treats and praise. I don't know if love bombing would work on this kitty. Siamese have their own personalities. Spend a few days concentrating on her and giving her affection when she wants it then try to get some structure in that so she knows she will get it at certain times. Rocky knows she gets brushed first thing in the am and again after supper and she lets me know she wants it then.
cw -sounds similar. R says this dog is sneaky - the kind that would come at you when your back is turned. R says they may not know she is barking all day and hopes talking with them will bring some resolution. It's very wearing on him as he has to spend hours outside clearing snow, doing repairs etc. I found a device on Amazon that sends out signals that are unpleasant to dogs but humans can't hear. Some are good for about 50 feet, but he has about 400 ft of fence so at times he would have to carry it with him or something. It might be worth trying to see if it works.
This cat is special, I can't pick her up and put her in a room she doesn't let me get close enough unless I'm sitting. She is kinda a stray, step daughter dropped her off anyways. Took about 2 years till she would come out during the day, so we knew what she looks like. 😂 , and 2 more years before she would come to me. Then she came to me, but won't separate from me, unless hubby is inside then she hides again.
I just want her to give me some space without doing anything so she hides from me again.
Sometimes I talk to her and tell her "No." I think she understands that word. Cats can learn a number of words. I do brush her twice a day on my lap and she cuddles at other times so i know she isn't deprived.
R has a different problem A dog that lives next door to the farm barks all the time when he is outside. When R is working anywhere on the property the dog runs up and down the fence barking. It is wearing on him when he has stuff to do that takes a few hours. The owners are away working all day. He has just recently met them and will talk with them.
The dog acts as if it was abused in its early life - not by the owners. It's fearful/anxious/aggressive. There is an older dog too, and she has checked him out, but now just sleeps by the back door of the neighbours house.
Does anyone have any ideas how else deal with this? He doesn't want to alienate the neighbours.
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