Hey folks, welcome to the new whine/general topic thread. Feel free to use this thread to discuss anything that is on your mind. Caregiving- related stuff, life after a loved one's death, your own emotional wellbeing. Whatever..........anything on your mind.
Thank you for the car advice Geaton!
Thank you for your comments Gershun!
I appreciate all of you!
That is a nice car.
I was away from forum. Husband was in hospital again before New Year and again after.
So frustrated with our system which deals only with immediate problem and not looking at other solutions or treatments. It seems to me nobody looks at whole person, just quick fix by adding or increasing drugs.
Thank you for asking, it helps to be part of the group which understands our plight.
Nah, I wouldn't do this either. Lol.
Do what I would do.
That is, follow Golden's advice to stay in bed.
I was watching a video of someone skating on the streets of New Orleans, now that's gotta suck for all the people who don't have the infrastructure for that. Not to mention all the snowbirds who went south for a little warmth... doh!
nacy - seems light light therapy of one sort or another helps many things.
Well done, cw. 👏 I know what you mean!!! But heated seats and steering wheel will make up for a lot of learning. Last car I bought has heated seats but not steering wheel I wish I had that option!!! At 40 below it makes a big difference. (Not that it goes down to 40 below here.)
Loved, loved, loved best of all cars was my 1981 Toyota Corolla.
Because that's the one I bought from seeing it traveling down the freeway
with so few miles, and 'they' said it couldn't be done!
My car is 2005 = 20 years old and still runs, looks good.
What was the factor that made you buy a newer car?
I can not imagine living in fridgid weather, hats off to all of you that can and do. Brrrr!
cw - snowing here too the last few days Ugh!!!
nacy - minus 27 F (-34C) here at night a few nights, with minus 11F (-24C) in the daytime Going up in few days thankfully. I'm happy to stay indoors.
itrr - Oh my goodness - that's a hot summer day for us. I'm OK till about 83 F then I'm done.
There is a fresh Daffodil popped out of the ground with ready to bloom buds.
There are some sunny days, and more to come.
It is Spring to me.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UeWL4J6SziM
My body is operating on DST, I'm waking up well before 6 and nodding off before 10, I'm looking to changing the clock so I'm back in sync with everyone else.
I worried when I got these calls at first but after awhile I realized that there was not a damn thing I could do about it. If my mother wanted to go into the basement of her house, then that is what she was going to do. There was no controlling it. I wasn't her jailer.
I just gave it up to the gods and I became very fatalistic. Something was going to happen, it could be a fall in the basement or something equally miserable would that radically changed her trajectory. She had 94 good years and she wasn't going to live forever. That's just how it is.
cw - you said it well. Acceptance so changes our perspective.
psue - glad this was comforting to you. None of us can stop the ravages of disease or aging.
way - self preservation - absolutely!!! A lot of what I did or didn't do re mother was about self preservation.
hothouse - Yes!! Worrying doesn't change or fix things, but it hurts us. Giving up what one can't control is liberating. It is what it is.
The old serenity prayer is still a good one:
“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference”
I'll add "peace once I have figured it out". 🕊
Mal de debarquement syndrome (MdDS), or disembarkment syndrome is a neurological condition usually occurring after a cruise, aircraft flight, or other sustained motion event.
It could be that is why you feel 'weird' after your cruise.
Maybe your doctor can help you feel better and give you a reasonable diagnosis.
Many people, when faced with a vacation, will get sick before going. That part is a psychological illness.
If you are not feeling yourself, see a doctor.