Good Morning 🌞
A fellow poster on this website mentioned swapping out the word grief for guilt. I can’t remember who it was and which post it was from but it has been a total game changer.
Instead of using the word guilt because I can’t do it all and don’t want to do it all, I use grief that I can’t do it all because I’m only human. I end the sentence with a period and move onto the next thought easily and with Grace.
I have been playing with these for a few weeks now and it’s much more freeing in the body to use grief. Guilt feels very heavy to me in the body. Guilt feels like a vicious cycle of ruminating thoughts leading to resentment. Grief feels lighter and easier to move.
Guilt lead me down a dark path for many years. I have been trying to work through this emotion for decades. A huge thank for whoever suggested grief. It was the missing piece to the puzzle!
Happy Sunday everyone, remember to do something for you today…. And to keep laughing and smiling!
I think emotions are so difficult to pinpoint sometimes.
You have included another GREAT "G" word in your post.
GRACE.
One of the definitions of GRACE is:
Do honor or credit to someone or something by one's presence.
Isn't that what we try to do when we are caring for someone?
Then I realized, I did the best I could. It is grief - I no longer could do his toe nails. I am thankful that for 12 years as his only caregiver - I only had two bad days. Challenging days, yes. Overwhelming days, yes. Grief not guilt!