I’m my mom’s caregiver even though she’s in memory care. I’m trying to take care of her bills/house and mine as well. My problem amongst many others is that I have AUD. I feel so guilty and ashamed! I can’t go to rehab now as I need to handle all affairs. I’m not asking for mercy, but just want to know if anyone else has a drinking problem and what they did about it. I can’t go on like this! I’ve always been the “fixer” in the family and now I need fixing myself. Mom has major dementia due to 2 strokes. She can barely hear or see which makes communication very difficult. I may have posted something similar in the past, but I can’t remember. I need help or a kick in the butt. Thanks for listening ❤️
Your problem may be you are a fixer and not everything can be fixed. Get tge help you need.
Best of luck.
I would call APS and tell them that you need for them to take over your moms care, and the reasons why. The state will then take over your moms care and you can get on the road to recovery.
There is help out there for you, but you have to be the one to take the first step.
And just in case you're having trouble taking that first step, I'm more than happy to give you a swift "kick in the butt" to get you going.
You can do this. So go make your mom proud!
Is your doctor recommending rehab (as opposed to AA, a therapist and perhaps medication?)
In your shoes, I would plan to get both homes on autopilot, tell the facility that you are going for in-patient treatment for a few months and take care of YOU!
My heart goes out to you.