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I was just wondering if anyone knew about this or who I could speak with. Since my Dad's rent at the AL has increased, I am now putting about $500 a month of my own money into the pot. I'm working two jobs just to pick up the slack, and it burns me up that I still OWE taxes. I can't claim Dad as a dependent because I don't cover 50% of his expenses which is the requirement, and since he doesn't pay taxes (100% disability from the US Navy where he was blinded), I'm not sure if I CAN do anything. I had considered transferring money from his account to mine and then paying some of his expenses, but that seems a bit like fraud to me, and I have to give an account of every red cent of how I use Dad's money. I have to go through a yearly audit with the feds to make sure I'm not misappropriating funds. I have no life as is and now I have to be broke as well?

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Tiny, I'm bumping this up.

Are you dad's POA? Are you saying that dad HAS funds to pay these expenses, but that you don't have access to those monies? I'm not sure I understand your question.

One this for certain. YOU should not be paying for your dad's expenses. Dad's funds should be paying.
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I have full POA.

Dad currently gets a certain amount of VA and Social Security benefits, but his expenses exceed that amount.

Because we couldn't find a suitable ALF that falls below Dad's current benefits, I am left to pay the remaining rent and other expenses which totals between $500 - $700.

To do this I have two jobs (and sold my car and lost my home), but I still end up OWING taxes. I was just wondering if I could recoup this money.

Technically, Dad is a dependent.
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Oh my. From what I am reading, you have no recourse because your father is in a facility. There are tax credits for people who house their elderly relatives but not for those who help foot the bill. With an aging population it's really sad to realize how little resources are available. I know this doesn't help with what has been spent, but is Dad not eligible for Medicaid? I would think that would be the best thing for you. I really do sympathize with you.
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Have you checked into the VA Aid and Attendance benefit?
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Oh, Tiny. Is this because the quality of provision that his benefits would cover is - unacceptable? Or is just that there isn't a facility to be had at that rent?

You shouldn't be paying at all, and you certainly shouldn't be paying so much. Can't those brilliant people who are so careful to make sure you don't mis-step make themselves useful for once and advise what you *are* allowed to do?
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So Tiny, does dad have savings? Is that what you mean when you say " transfer money from dad's accounts to mine to cover expenses"? If dad has resources-- savings, stocks, real estate, then those should be liquidated today for his care.
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