My dad was put into a nursing home by his son who is the POA. After my dad told us what he was willing to us, my dad was sent to a nursing home against his will. His son took all of checkbooks, wallet and fire arms out of his house while in the nursing facility. His son put him in there and went out of town for 2 weeks. I know that his son only wants to have total control of my dad's money. What can i do?
As for your Dad saying his son put him into a nursing home then went out of town for 2 weeks..... please note it is common when placing an elder into a nursing home to stay away for 2 weeks. That gives the elder a chance to learn his/her way around the facility and to bond with the Staff.
Chances are you brother used what is called a "theraputic fib" for the reason he wasn't visiting Dad for those two weeks.
As cmagnum had mentioned in his posting, a nursing home just doesn't take anyone because a relative wants his/her to be in a nursing home. The nursing home needs to make an assessment of Dad's health conditions to make sure he really needs to be in a nursing home. Apparently your Dad needs that higher level of skilled care.
As to what your Dad had told you what he is willing to you, if his care [at home or at a nursing home] don't be surprised if the assets are eaten up due to cost. My Dad was paying $20k per month for at-home caregivers around the clock. My Mom was paying $12k for long-term-care. Then my Dad moved to Assisted Living which was the less expensive then living at home hiring caregiveres.
By chance, who was caring for Dad when he was living at home? You? Your brother? or another relative?
He has a equilibrium imbalance. He has tripped but caught himself. No falls.
His son did not "fib". Before my dad was transferred from the hospital to the nursing home, his son and wife flew out of town qith my dad's keys, credit cards, id, and checkbooks. I was only in possession of the small amount of cash my dad had given to me and his cell phone. That was not asked for. Only concern for his money.
His son has told the social worker negative things about me, and does not tell me what's going on with him.
Granted, i am a lot younger than my dad's sons, he is my parent as well, and have rights.
His son can't sell his house as he is renting from a friend.
How was your dad sent to the nursing home against his will. Normally, a doctor has to give an order for such and nursing homes just don't take someone because a family member wants to put them there.
Is your brother also his Medical POA?
I find it interesting that your refer to your brother as your dad's son. Why?
There must be some more pieces to this story.
The POA now comes into effect. The son now is responsible for seeing that bills are being paid. So, yes, he needs Dads check book and IDs. There is no reason for Dad to have them at the home to be stolen. And yes, the firearms should be removed from a house not being lived it and put someplace secure. Don't be surprised if POA sells the house. The money will need to be used for Dads care.
If POA was main caregiver, he probably needed a break away.