If my disabled daughter and I sell both our existing homes and buy one together in my Daughters and my Son-In -Laws names and my name will not be on the deed. If I would have to go into a nursing home before 5 yrs after the sale of my home, can Medicaid take the home from my Daughter and her husband for the proceeds/dollars from my home I sold?? The home is in my name only since my husband passed away 10 yrs, ago. I am 71 now and need someone with me at my age and not live alone anymore and my Daughter 53 (disabled). My Son-in-law is 76.
I also wonder if this plan is the best idea for you socially. Widowed at 61, your daughter disabled at the age of 53: life seems to have dealt you rather a rough hand, and I can understand that you would welcome the security of living with others as you enter on older age (at 71 you're really not there yet!). But have you considered other possibilities besides throwing in your lot with your daughter and her husband?
BUT what Medicaid can do - IF there are not any exemptions or exclusions OR other state specific legal to the situation - is to place a “gifting” or transfer penalty on your Medicaid application if you should apply for Medicaid within the next 5 years. That’s Spring of 2023.
AND also upon the Medicaid recipients death, Medicaid has to attempt a recoup of all costs paid by Medicaid for your care. Done though MERP.
Your daughter if verifiable handicapped can have a Special Needs Trust or other type of Trust set up by you. But Trusts are not a DIY and to me you need insight from BOTH an elder law atty and a disability attorney as to how to possibly structure purchasing a home &/or doing a Trust. An NAELA level of atty is where I’d suggest you start at as they will have other firms they work with.
So is this correct..... your daughter hubs is older than you? So like on 4 years, SIL will be 80? If so you all may want to think who to be a Trustee &/or DPOAs. Is there trusted family or family friends who could be involved in oversight for your daughter? The atty will have suggestions as to how to plan for death or incapacity of Trustees.
I'm not really sure but it might be best to consult with an elder law attorney and make sure all the paperwork will protect your daughter.