About 6 weeks ago I found my biological father after 43yrs. He left when I was 2. We talked for a couple of weeks on the phone, and one day he called me up and told me he was dying, and that the lady he was living with was kicking him out. I took my savings and drove to Missouri from NY and brought him to live with me. (I am the oldest of 14kid) He's lived here for a month, no money, as all his money is tied up in Missouri banks, he has no check book, or debit card, so I have paid for all his expenses this far. After bringing him here, I found out that all he told me is not true, he doesn't have cancer, and isn't dying as he claimed. He's an alcoholic and lies about everything and everyone. I don't know where to turn to get help with him. I found out recently that he hasn't bathed in over a year (hasn't here and been here a month) he's mad that I am finding out his lies and is now refusing food. The stress he is causing me is worrying my family. HELP PLEASE!!
I did go to the police and they thought I was insane for doing all I have for him. They did get me in contact with agencies, one telling me to charge him for all my expense's and then send him into a facility - his refusal to eat (5days now) and not shower (over a yr) is mental issue's. The police also did a back ground check on him and he was in prison for 10yrs, (not sure why though it didn't show up in records) when I asked him about it he said armed robbery - he told my son in law he killed a man. OMG!! I don't know what to believe when it comes from his mouth. either way I am looking into alternative care for him. I don't have the money or means to do this and I don't want too. Heart broken to the max
Have you ever attended an Alcoholics Anonymous meeting? People there might be able to help and give you ideas on how to handle this. They have all been where you are. Praying for you -------
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