My Mom, with ALZ, lives in an assisted living facility in VA. She is insisting she wants to move back to New England. Far away from her 3 children and 7 grandkids. I wouldn’t put much stock in her plans if her sister in New England weren’t helping her with this “move”. They think her ALZ is “senior moments”. They think she can live alone in an apartment. Their “plan”’is to come visit and then TAKE her back with them!? My siblings are her POA’s both medical and financial.
All these Aunts have done is vilify my siblings and I .
What is our legal recourse?
Ask her sisters to spend a couple of hours with her in the AL. Have her help them with packing. I suspect they will see the truth.
's order that she reside in the MC unit?
I might explore Guardianship, because then, the Guardian has say so over where the Ward resides. Not sure if there are grounds for that, but, I would explore it before the siblings attempt to remove her or take her out of state, which could be an even bigger headache.
And if they take her back home, is there harm done? You resign your POAs.
Even if your Mom's sister was able to slip your Mom away, I bet within hours of being in the car or waiting at the airport for a flight north, your Mom's sister would finally realize that there is a major problem.
I am so sorry to hear about your mom's plans and the stress it is causing. Please know because your siblings have POA, it won't be easy for your aunt to take this action. I would talk to elder law attorney if you would like know all your legal options.
I know people mean well, but don't take what they say to heart. It is not worth it. Just let them yammer all they want, because you and your siblings know the truth. Tell your aunt as bluntly as possible that their words are not helping. And if you have to just block them for a bit, just to get some peace.