I was wondering if anyone can advise me please? My mum is 82 and has dementia, which has gotten worse, and she is now in hospital waiting to get a brain scan today. I have a brother who hasn’t seen or made contact with her in over 20 years and I’m unsure whether or not to get in contact with him. I have sent him texts previously for birthdays, etc. and he has not replied. My friends are saying that he obviously is not interested and not to bother, but I am torn. Has anyone else been in this situation? Thank you.
Wish you the best.
If you have an address, send a note. "Hope all is well with you. I felt the need to write this note to tell you Mom now has Dementia and at this moment is waiting for a brain scan. If you would like to contact me, my phone # is ..."
If u have no address, then try text or email if you have it. If brother does not respond, then you have your answer. He is not interested or you have no updated info on him and that is not your fault.
My brother has not contacted me since Sept 2017. I have texted him and the last two years no response. His two girls, in their mid 20s, have not kept in touch. One is a teacher in my Township. She will be married (got a please save the date) in June. We will not be attending because we will be on a Cruise a year and a half in the making. Lots of money involved. I will send a nice card with a check.
Yes, I agree with Pamhen contact whoever you think needs to know, brother, and he's an adult let him do with it what he wants. Relay the info and let them claim ownership of it. You are not responsible for how other people respond.
For some reason in life, it's not even Steven...you jus have to play the cards you're dealt with. This goes on in every family. It would be nice if he showed up to give you some support.
Amen...
I think your brother should be told, if only to give him a choice. Who knows, he may become an unexpected source of support for you at a difficult time.
My brother and I are far from reconciled; too much water under the bridge, but I think there is a peace and acceptance there, which there wasn’t before between us. And we had a few laughs at memories during the process. I know this may be different for you, but we never know. All we can give is an opportunity. Good luck in this challenging part of your life. You are doing a magnificent job!
that way if he ever accuses you of shutting him out you have proof of contact.
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