We just received a letter from my MIL's doctor stating she's had over a year of continuous and excessive cancellations and that he has no other choice than to no longer accept her as a patient. We have no control over her- no body does. She has been showing obvious signs of dementia and my FIL is unable to control her. She is always canceling everything- she is very anxious. She has been taking thyroid medication for years. My question is this- when a doctor drops you from his practice does your prescription get cancelled too? (We are aware thyroid conditions can cause dementia symptoms but FIL swears she's been taking her meds. )
As for her medicine, once there are no more refills she cannot get her meds refilled without a doctor's consent. But your hubby's Mom has dementia and it is impossible to reason with someone with dementia. Usually it takes a crises where ER is needed, and then maybe you can deal with the meds.
I would NOT lend them money. I would also inform their doctor, in writing, what is going on and ask HER/HIM to teport yhem to APS. If you seek guardianship, they necome your responsibility. That might be better left to an outside professional.