mom is in a NH, with a rare illness that just couldnt be handled skill wise at home, she keeps saying I dont want her at home.Not true, I am not skilled enough to care for her.......What else can I tell her to make her believe that its not true, I have tried at home, couldnt do it! it became dangerous, diet changes daily, and major falling..........
You've got to quit beating yourself up over this and tell yourself that it's for her own good. It's for YOUR own good too - after all don't you have a husband with health issues too? You'll end up with health issues if you try to take care of too many others and put yourself last. Your husband needs to tell you that you're a good daughter too - because it's true.