my uncle refuses a dr stated he knows when he has to go. i take care of my mom and i am totally disabled with alot of health problems. my uncle wants us to take him in but he and my mom don't get along it wouldn't work out. he wants to leave me and my brother his money when he dies. if i don't take him in, he may not want to give me any money. i don't want anything from him at all. he is good mentally but shakes and does need care but won't accept any. i even suggested telespond they can give him a bath and help him with meals. he stated i'm not ready yet for that. help thank you
Be kind. Tell him you are very sorry but your household already has too much disabilitiy and illness to cope with more.
If you feel you can and are willing to, offer to help him find appropriate placement or in-home care. Or put him in touch with a county caseworker.
If he needs care and pays for it (in his home or in a care center) he may not have anything to leave to anybody. That is a typical scenario among seniors who thought they'd have money to leave but need it for their own old age. Instead of worrying about who he will leave his money to he should be planning how to take care of himself. That is his first responsibility.